By : Latifatus Sa'adah, M.A
“I miss Mom, even though I see him every day, I'm beside Mom, but it feels like Mother is far away with lots of brilliant ideas to improve her career,”
“When is it time for me, In this?"I'm waiting for your caress, your hug, your fun stories, your laughter with me, like before, Mother. I felt that before before my mother got a job..."
“Now my mother is a great career woman and her working hours must be precise, if you don't want to be fired. The only prayer I say is that my mother misses those days, I always wait for the right holiday, Mother. When, Mother??”
Is that one of the heart cries of our children?”
Children are a gift whose presence we must be grateful for in various ways, One of them is by providing education, both religious and general, to equip them to become a strong generation who are ready to color this world with the beauty of their character and creativity to achieve true worldly and spiritual happiness..
The role of the father is no less important than the mother. The mother said to her child. "Son, You grow and develop from your mother's breast milk which is produced by your father's sweat. Did you know, son?, Mother bought all your new clothes and your necessities because of the money your father gave you. When you sleep, after work, Don't forget that Dad always asks about your condition throughout the day, proof that Dad is really worried about you. If Dad is angry because you are late coming home, that's because you are very valuable to Dad, Son. "He doesn't want bad things to happen to you."
The role of father and mother is very important for the growth and development of children. What should a mother do as a career woman and a super busy father??
- Specifying Options
The child's growth and development period cannot be postponed and repeated once it has passed. Will we sacrifice those times only for our children to spend time with our household assistant?? Which is sometimes education, his soul does not necessarily match our expectations. Parents must have the courage to choose and decide what is best for their family, Don't make the wrong choice and make a decision for the good of your main sons and daughters.
Career or family? That might be a very difficult choice. Having a good career is not as easy as turning the palm of your hand, will you just be abandoned after getting married and having children?? Still prioritize family above all else but still have a career, both good and difficult choices. But we must know the consequences of our choices.
- Set a Mandatory Schedule for the Family
If you choose to remain a super busy person, No matter how busy the family gathering schedule is, it must be mandatory for yourself and your family members. Every day make time to laugh with him, hug, caress it, studying together and even listening to his chatter all day playing with whom. Assume that togetherness with family is as obligatory as obligatory prayers. Leaving fardhu prayers is a fear of sin for those of us who believe that it is still standard, Likewise, leaving the family together, the impact of this negligence is very dangerous for the family. Children will grow and develop less than our expectations because their education has been neglected.
We really need to implement "Learning Community Habits" as a forum for togetherness in carrying out the obligation to gather with family. Learn to read books, learn to listen to each other's family members' opinions, go refreshing with the family or learn from the most trivial things, spending time together or just listening to the hearts of family members. From these joint activities, stronger relationships are created in a physical and spiritual family. Joint learning activities that are consistently carried out in a family automatically give birth to good role models for all family members and without realizing it or being forced, all family members, from the oldest to the smallest, will feel the positive impact of these habituation activities.. Carry out activities without feeling tortured or forced. Habituation activities feel like a daily menu of food that they have to eat, So that it doesn't get boring, you also need creativity and innovation in processing these activities.
The togetherness created in a family gives birth to peace, comfort, harmony, True happiness, Be a positive role model for those who are still young, so that a family that is sakinah mawaddah and full of grace is created. Even though their life is simple, it is actually their heaven on earth.
An obstacle that often occurs is the difficulty of allocating time for parents who have great careers to find time to sit down to teach or study with their children or family.. If time could be turned back no human would experience regret. For this reason, starting from this moment, we, parents or prospective parents, must really make good use of the moments with our family so that we can know the growth and development of our sons and daughters from all sides..
- Hard work, Smart Work is based on Sincerity
“ Bundaaa, medical treatment!”
Your little one can be heard whining when your mother's fingers are busy dancing on the keyboard because of unfinished office work and having to work overtime. "Ready, dear, food will come soon, wait a minute, please." Uh,... or follow Mother to the kitchen Yuk."
Smile at him, get up, leave all activities behind, serve him happily and sincerely even though a pile of our work is delayed. Be sure, by serving them sincerely and making them happy, which is basically our main obligation, Then Allah will make all our affairs easier and give us abundant sustenance.
Consequences of our choices, Ihlas is the key to everything, No matter how hard or busy our work is at the office or at home, it's best not to make it a burden that ends up burdening ourselves so that we forget how to smile.. We must be able to enjoy all our responsibilities with a happy heart because our busyness is a gift from God that other people may not have, and we who are God's choice to be Caliphs on this earth should be grateful to carry God's trust by working hard, work smart, according to our respective responsibilities sincerely and not wasting His mandate.
- Provide Religious Education to Children and Always Ask God for Guidance
Religious education is very important as a foundation for children to live their lives. introduce who he is, what it was created for and who created it. If we ourselves feel the need to give our children more education than their father's and mother's education, It would be better if we entrust our children's education to institutions that can provide appropriate education, both general and religious..
Cultivating faith and getting used to worship which is reflected in children's behavior is not an easy education, However, in Indonesia there are many examples, such as Islamic boarding school education, 24 The hours they experience education in a day will shape their personality.
All the good things we do for the family, all worth worship. Even more perfect, when you are relaxing or busy with activities, you still have time to always get closer to Allah, carry out all His commands, always try to stay away from all His prohibitions, and always apply p;He guides what we do whether we are enthusiastic or fall into fatigue, so that our steps do not fall into the valley of error that results in regret, but always guided to the path that He approves. The hope of creating a peaceful family full of love in the shade of Almighty love can be realized because of His guidance.
